It all got a little confusing a while ago. Back when strippers and camgirls first discovered clips. Women who were used to being pleasers found themselves in an entirely new world where they could take on a new role. They wouldn’t have to smile and pretend to like whatever the customer was paying for and they could be mean and nasty, taking out on men some of the abuse they had received. They called themselves dommes but they were really just brats fed up with performing live. It gets even murkier when porn stables like Humiliation POV and their FemDom influencer friends have a direct pipeline into strip clubs. Clip sites like iWantClips have access to a steady stream of new girls, freshly groomed and eager to do as they’re told, all while diluting the online FemDom scene. Through all of the confusion, the result is the same. Degradation being sold as domination. The unfortunate thing is the women doing the degrading aren’t dominant, and they only end up degrading themselves.
Take a look at what’s offered on clip sites in the humiliation categories. You’ll notice a few commonalities – things like women with drool hanging from their mouths, throwing their heads back and rolling their eyes, holding an “L” symbol up to their foreheads. Women making themselves look like raving morons. And for what? Aside from the degrading imagery, the women look good. They’re dressed in alluring outfits. They skillfully applied makeup and styled their hair. Yet they convince themselves that deforming their features on camera is sexy and dominant. No kink shaming here, just the plain fact that this is not the behavior of a dominant woman. This is the behavior of a woman desperate for money, of a woman who was told that this is what sells, of a woman who is copying the success of others.
The success of some doesn’t often translate to others. Especially when the success is due to a tight network of like-minded businessmen and the racket of women they have constructed. It isn’t a surprise that the same women are always at the top of iWantClips and promoted by Domme Addiction. It’s worth noting that Humiliation POV and Alexandra Snow’s Wicked Eden are also connected to this scheme. These people help each other out, find each other talent, and promote each other’s content. It’s a consensual trafficking and racketeering ring that has secured the top positions for their women. If these businessmen have the idea that degradation sells, that’s exactly what they’re going to push. When they have a network of publicity and are able to pull strings, their content is what sits at the top of the charts as an example of aspiration. Women looking to get ahead start copying this content and it suddenly seems like it’s a big deal. Like it’s normal. But who even buys this stuff? And do they really like it?
In my almost fourteen years of producing independent FemDom clips, I have spoken to countless men. Some genuinely get off on being called a “little bitch” but a lot of the so-called fans of humiliation have admitted to me that it was conditioned into them. Being called a loser in a JOI clip wasn’t hot until they heard it over and over. For many of these men, it was never about being bullied in high school. It wasn’t about needing a break from a high-stress executive job. It was simply a matter of what was available when they wanted to add to their spank bank. Buying what you see at the top of a list is easy, and when the lists calculate order by sales, it’s a cycle that feeds itself. It sounds sexy, being conditioned over years by a hot brat to cum only when you’re called a loser. It’s sexy, until you find out that it’s a bunch of men using women to create this kind of content.
Before we go further, let’s establish something. Teasing and humiliation can have a place in domination. They can be tools to break down the walls of the submissive by drawing attention to his weaknesses, primal urges and desires. By focusing on his embarrassments, the submissive is placed into a different mental state. Within this sensation, he can lose himself for a while and be overtaken by the powerful woman clearly in control. Teasing can harken back to earlier years when someone was out of reach. Humiliation can stir anger and that energy can be turned into arousal. There are many reasons why teasing and humiliation can be key elements of domination, but to film some of the degrading content that’s out there and call it FemDom is simply a lie.
Let’s examine the degradation clips I’m referring to. You can go look for yourself at Humiliation POV and see many familiar faces covered in drool. Why are they doing this? Is it because they feel powerful and sexy with cold slime dripping down their chins? They would probably say that it’s a form of mockery, a way to make fun of the viewer. The viewer. The primary focus of their FemDom clip is a man. A man they think is mentally deficient. It has nothing to do with the woman being sexy, smart, or seductive. It has everything to do with pointing out the viewer’s assumed low lights. “You’re stupid. You’re a loser. You’re a beta. You don’t deserve pussy. You can’t get a woman. You can only get off to porn.” It’s a swirl of negativity that she’s placed herself in the center of. If we’re being honest, we must admit that it isn’t very powerful to associate with losers.
Assume all of the men buying these clips are truly pathetic losers who have nothing going for them. They don’t know how to talk to a woman and are ugly monsters. Why would a truly powerful, sexy woman with self-worth want to cater to them in custom videos? Why would she spend all hours of the night chatting with them about their limitations? Why would she go out of her way to remember and discuss their failures while making JOI clips?
If she isn’t embarrassing herself by drooling lipstick down her chin, she’s holding an L up to her forehead. At best, she highlights her “bratty tits” or “bratty ass” or “bratty body” as a contribution. A brat is a petulant child – an immature fly that can easily be brushed aside when provided frivolous things. This is not the mark of a dominant woman – a sophisticated, self-assured femme who surrounds herself with people and objects that enhance her power and standing. True FemDom content highlights and celebrates the essence of woman. It’s a reversal of roles where sensuality is seen as the ultimate power and confidence is wielded like a tool to impress upon a man to submit.
But how did so many regular guys end up buying humiliation clips, leading to many women seeing it as a lucrative path? Well, they’ve just been caught up in the rigged world created by other men – like the ones who control Humiliation POV (Rob), Domme Addiction (Irv & Michael) and iWantClips/IWC Society (Jude H.). A group of man-hating businessmen decided what was going to get dicks hard by choosing to showcase the least dominant women in the scene because they’re the easiest to control. This is all done under the misnomer of “domme” because it’s such a hot title and allows the women to feel they’re in charge when in reality they’re the ones that are being used. Being a Domme gives them the air of a sophisticated and powerful woman, almost as if it acts as permission to embarrass themselves by pretending to be mentally deficient on the internet.
When people inevitably discuss what’s domme and what’s not, keep in mind this question –
Does the action empower the woman and showcase her feminine confidence, or is it a cringeworthy embarrassment that makes her look exactly like the loser she’s catering to?
